By Keith Bunn Jr.
First off, let’s admit it; if you have a spouse or even just a boyfriend or girlfriend, you’ve had an argument or two in your relationship. It is perfectly natural for that to happen from time to time. What isn’t natural is when you’re at each other’s throats all the time. The number one thing that people argue about these days is money!
The thing is, if you got that part of your relationship under control, all the other parts you’re having issues with will start to fall in line. So how can you start getting things under control? A good place to start would be starting a budget. In every relationship, you have a Saver and you have a Spender. Kind of like a Yin and Yang of finances, and you need each other so that you both have a long lasting financial life.
The Saver needs the Spender so they can enjoy life more and don’t end up being a hermit in a cave somewhere. The Spender needs the Saver to kind of rein them in from time to time so they don’t have to eat Alpo in their golden years.
The person with the God given talent for dealing with numbers should draw up the budget and then the two of you sit down and go over it to make it both of yours. If the other partner thinks that something needs to be changed, you both discuss it and make the change(s) only if both of you agree to it and as long as your budget balances! What this does is, is that it opens up the communication channels between the two of you and stars to bring you closer together.
Now, if your partner won’t do this with you or wants to separate the money into his and hers, there maybe bigger underlying problems and you may need to seek out some marriage counseling of some kind. If you’re not married yet but plan to someday, I suggest looking into getting some kind of pre-marital counseling that includes how to deal with your money. The pre-marital counseling should bring out where you both stand on money, kids, in-laws, and religion. The four things couples fight about the most.
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